Handling Haters

In disputes upon moral or scientific points, ever let your aim be to come at truth, not to conquer your opponent. So you never shall be at a loss in losing the argument, and gaining a new discovery.

Benjamin Franklin

All Is Being Purified

“This life therefore, is not righteousness, but growth in righteousness, not health but healing, not being but becoming, not rest but exercise. We are not yet what we shall be, but we are growing toward it: the process is not yet finished but it is going on. This is not the end but it is the road; all does not yet gleam in glory but all is being purified.”

-Martin Luther

Honest, Loving, Direct Words

Most people go through their entire lives without anyone, ever, speaking honest, loving, direct words to the most damaging issues in their lives. Pause for a moment, and count the times this has been done for you. Better, pause and count the times you have offered this to someone you love.

– John Eldredge, Beautiful Outlaw

Hiding from Ourselves

This is how most of us approach our entire lives—we hide what we can, work on what we feel is redeemable, and despise the rest.

There is a better way.

—John Eldredge, Free to Live

Designing with Anti-Patterns

Here’s a quick thought experiment to try out at your next design studio: Design a product made to bore, aggravate or offend your customers.

Now compare these anti-designs to your actual offering. How similar are they to each other?

Who Are You Dreaming With?

It’s Monday and I’m doing my weekly strategic planning. This starts with me writing down 10 goals that, if accomplished in the next 12 months, would be beyond amazing. But there’s been something missing lately from my goal setting.

Since most of my goals are for the benefit of the people I love and care about, I like to share that goal with them in the form of a promise. For example, I’m not just trying to pay off all of my debt for the fun of it. I’m paying off debt so I can do a better job of saving for my child’s education.

So to make this goal more real and to help me hold myself accountable, I’m making a promise to my son that I will be debt-free within 12 months. I’m also telling him the specific steps I’ll be taking, and why this is important to me.

It can be tough to share your goals with people because of the fear of failure. But I find that when I share my goals with the people who matter, they tend to support and encourage me along the way. That support and accountability helps carry me through when the going gets tough.

So this is my challenge to you: write a note to the person most involved in your goal explaining why you want to achieve the goal and what you’re going to do to succeed. While you’re at it, why not tell them the things they can do to help keep you on track? You’ll soon see that your goals are much easier to achieve when you have the people you love cheering you on.